Sarah Gibbard Cook
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Sociologist’s Daughter

1/29/2018

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Historical fiction is chock full of daughters. Hangman’s Daughter by Oliver Pötzsch, Mapmaker’s Daughter by Laurel Corona, and Bloodletter’s Daughter by Linda Lafferty are three I’ve enjoyed lately. If 15th- to 17th-century Europe isn’t your thing, you may be more drawn to Pharaoh’s Daughter, Ninja’s Daughter, or Frontiersman’s Daughter. Fathers also shape subjects’ lives in the occasional biography (Galileo’s Daughter, Stalin’s Daughter) or memoir.

Last summer I reflected on influences from my mother. With my father’s 106th birthday just past, now it’s his turn. He grew up a rural shopkeeper’s son in frontier British Columbia. Inspired by a high school math teacher, he became the second in his large extended family to attend university. Math led to economics and eventually a rare depression-era fellowship in the fledgling field of sociology. The train ride across Canada to Montreal, home of McGill University, was his first-ever venture more than 200 miles from home.

He explored urban immigrant communities in Montreal and Detroit and rural poverty in Appalachia, where my early campus memories feature lush green hillsides, endless books, and the stuffed owl at the natural history museum. At home he answered my questions with the wisdom of a sociologist father. His explanation that “people” commonly means “people like me” helps me understand debates today about the wishes of the American people.

When I asked why we didn’t join the country club, he said we had the good fortune to visit grandparents in wonderful places each summer. When I asked the reasons for racism (though I didn’t yet know the word), he said some who don’t feel good about themselves want someone to look down on; we were lucky to like ourselves well enough to be comfortable liking others. He gave me lessons not only about societal relations but also about respect, compassion, and gratitude.
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Lisa
1/29/2018 08:47:23 am

It's good for a girl to have a cool dad. My dad influenced me by having a lot of lifelong friends, and valuing his family — cousins, etc. He always kept up on what they were all doing. He liked challenging himself to learn new skills, too (for him, woodworking). Oh, and he was very organized with his stuff. I get all that from him.

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Sarah link
2/8/2018 01:29:46 pm

Sounds like another cool dad. One who passed on a lot of traits that are important for your life and work!

Sorry for the delayed reply. Technological glitch - my notifications got unaccountably turned off and I only just found out.

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Patricia Childs Applegate
1/29/2018 06:09:01 pm

I have such fond memories of your father. Even when I was little, he never talked down to me. Such a thoughtful, gentle soul.

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Sarah link
2/8/2018 01:27:27 pm

Thank you for sharing your memories, Patty. Your description sounds right. I didn't feel he was talking down to me, either, though he used language a child could understand.

When I think of your father, the first image that comes to mind is your wonderful garden behind the house. Especially, for some reason, the strawberries. Oh, and "Chicago, that toddlin' town."

Sorry for the delay in this response. My notifications got accidentally turned off a couple of weeks ago and just came back on.

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